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Not all managers are skilled in effectively managing their employees, and often a bad manager’s behaviour can leave you feeling anxious, angry or in some extreme cases, even unwell.

In Australia, workplace health and safety legislation effectively holds employers responsible for ensuring the emotional, psychological and physical wellbeing of employees. However, mental stress claims lodged by affected employees against their employer increased by 25% from 2001 to 2011.

Toxic behaviours exhibited by managers can include consistently seeking and requiring praise, a need to win at all costs, manipulating, choosing favourite staff, taking credit for employee’s work, lying, bullying, criticising, looking for fault, micromanaging and ignoring employee requests. If your boss exhibits some of these behaviours, and you don’t feel like you’re in a position to report it or leave the organisation, you need to develop coping strategies to deal with their behaviour before it has detrimental effect on your wellbeing.

Rise Above It

Don’t get sucked in to your boss’s irrational, unacceptable behaviour. If you can take a step back from it, you won’t have to respond emotionally. Don’t try to beat them at their own game, rather distance yourself from them and approach your interactions professionally. Don’t respond to their emotional behaviour, just what’s necessary to work together.

Set Boundaries

Just because you work with someone, doesn’t mean that you can’t set boundaries to control the environment. Try to find a pattern in your boss’s behaviour so that it becomes more predictable and easier to understand. Then consider what behaviours you have to put up with from your boss and what you don’t. Once you have defined this, know when they are reaching the boundary that you have set and make sure you take a step back. Just make sure you stick to your guns and keep boundaries in place when your boss tries to encroach upon them, which they will.

Focus on the Solution

Where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. Fixating on the problems you’re facing with your boss only serves to create and prolong negative emotions and stress. In contrast when more positive emotions and reduce stress. When it comes to a toxic boss, fixating on how irrational and difficult they are gives them power over you. Instead, put yourself in control and focus on how you’re going handle them.

Choose Your Battles

When it comes to your career, you’re in it for the long haul so, it’s imperative that you stick it out. Don’t get sucked in to daily conflicts as this can end up reflecting badly on you. Instead, choose your battles wisely and only stand your ground when the time is right.

Be Aware of Your Emotions

Maintaining an emotional distance from your toxic boss requires awareness. You need to recognise when your boss is starting to irritate you so that you can take a step back from the situation before you do something you may regret.

Don’t Let Anyone Steal Your Sunshine

When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they’ve done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or remarks take that away from them. It can be difficult to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, but try not to compare yourself to others, and take their opinions on the chin.

Get a Good Night’s Rest

Sleep deprivation raises the stress hormone levels on its own, even when you think there is no stress present. When you sleep, your recharges so that you wake up alert and clear-headed. After a good night’s rest, your self-control, attention, and memory are all increased. You will be more positive, creative, and proactive in your approach to your toxic boss.

Use Your Support System 

To best deal with a toxic boss, you have to step back from the situation and try to understand your own approach to them and how you could improve it. In order to do this effectively, you should tap into your support system to gain a different perspective. This could be someone at work or in your personal life. Most of the time, other people can see a solution that you can’t because they are not as emotionally invested in the situation.

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